Grace in Galatians (Part 150): How To Be Strong AND Gentle

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Today, we continue our focus on THE YEAR OF DISCOVERY, as we learn to maintain our posture of faith after God has revealed His plans for our future.

As part of this series, I am teaching a verse-by-verse exposition of the book of Galatians.

Key scriptures for this year:

2 Peter 3:18 GNT“But continue to grow in the grace and in the knowledge of our Savior, Jesus Christ. To Him be glory now and forever.”

Luke 10:20 Mirror“It’s time for you to rediscover who you are from Heaven’s perspective.”

1 John 3:10 Mirror“There is a very visible and vast difference between living one’s life from your God identity or from a fallen man’s mindset.”

Proverbs 25:2 NKJV“It is the glory of God to conceal a matter, but the glory of kings is to search out a matter.”

Jeremiah 29:13 NIV“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

Scripture we will study today:

Galatians 5:23 TPT“…gentleness of heart, and strength of spirit. Never set the law above these qualities, for they are meant to be limitless.”

Supporting scriptures:

Matthew 11:29 NKJV“Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Proverbs 15:1 NKJV“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

2 Timothy 2:24-25 TPT“For the servant of the Lord must not be argumentative but not easy to offend. He must be gentle and Christ-like in his teaching, patient in his work, and gently instruct those who are not yet persuaded of the truth.”

1 Peter 3:15 ERV“But respect Christ as the holy Lord in your hearts. Always be ready to answer everyone who asks you to explain about the hope you have. But answer in a gentle way and with respect.”

Setting the Stage:

Today, we come to the seventh expression of divine love: gentleness of heart. This is one of the most misunderstood fruit of the Spirit. Many people equate gentleness with weakness, but nothing could be further from the truth. Jesus described Himself as “gentle and lowly in heart,” and this is the same Jesus who cleared the temple, rebuked the Pharisees, and conquered death. Gentleness is not the absence of strength; it is strength under the Holy Spirit’s control. A gentle person has the power to crush, but chooses to handle with care. That’s love handling others with care, and in THE YEAR OF DISCOVERY, this is a quality worth discovering at a deeper level.

So, what does this mean for you today? A few things.

1. Gentleness Is Strength Under Control, Not Weakness.

The Greek word for gentleness was used to describe a wild horse that had been broken and trained. The horse didn’t lose its power; it simply brought its power under the control of its master. In the same way, the Holy Spirit doesn’t take away your strength; He brings it under His control so that you use your power wisely. A gentle person is actually one of the most powerful people in the room because they have the strength to respond but the wisdom to choose how.

How this applies to you:    

— Gentleness is not the absence of power; it is power perfectly managed by the Holy Spirit. It’s one thing to know you have power but it’s another to know how and when to use it.  

— Like a trained warhorse, you have the strength to charge, but you wait for your Master’s command.

— The gentlest people in the room are often the strongest because they’ve learned to let the Spirit control their responses.

— When you have uncontrolled power, you react, and sometimes that reaction produces catastrophic results; however, when you have power under control, you can respond with calculated wisdom. 

— In leadership, gentleness is not a liability; it’s a strategic advantage. People trust leaders who are strong yet approachable.

— I have had the pleasure to work under many great leaders. Some were loud and emotional. Others were calm and soft spoken. I will give you two real-life examples of the latter I’ve had the pleasure to work for and be mentored by General Dennis Via and Lieutenant General Robert “Bob” Ferrell. Both men are retired from their military careers but I experienced them up close in moments where, in my opinion, they were flat-out disrespected. The way they handled the situations not only showed class but it actually demonstrated what we’re talking about today, which is power under control. Some people in the army misunderstood their leadership style (one that refused to yell) as weak but I saw it for what it is: real strength. 

— As a believer, your ability to remain gentle when provoked reveals the depth of your spiritual maturity.

— A harsh word stirs up anger, but a soft answer turns away wrath. Your gentleness de-escalates what your flesh wants to ignite.

— In THE YEAR OF DISCOVERY, discover that true strength is not measured by how hard you can hit but by how well you can restrain yourself when you have every right to retaliate. The Holy Spirit wants to know if you can remain in control when your flesh wants to explode. If you can, you have yielded to this is the fruit of the Spirit. 

2. Jesus Was the Perfect Model of Gentleness.

Jesus told us to learn from Him because He is “gentle and lowly in heart.” This is the King of Kings, the Creator of the universe, telling you that gentleness is central to His character. He was gentle with the broken, gentle with the searching, and gentle with the failing. Yet He was anything but weak. He spoke with authority, confronted injustice, and conquered the grave. His gentleness and His power were not in conflict; they worked together. The Holy Spirit produces that same blend in you.

How this applies to you:

— Jesus didn’t see gentleness as weakness, and neither should you. If it was good enough for the King of Kings, it’s good enough for you. To be open, this is an area where I have been striving to grow in for years. When I first came to Christ, I had a hot temper. Over the years, God has helped me to control my emotions so that I can respond in the spirit, instead of reacting in the flesh. 

— Gentleness doesn’t mean you never confront; it means you confront with love and wisdom.

— Jesus was gentle with sinners but firm with the self-righteous. The Holy Spirit will give you discernment to know when to be tender and when to be direct.

— You can correct someone without crushing their spirit. That’s the art of Holy Spirit-empowered gentleness.

— A gentle leader earns the right to speak into people’s lives because they’ve demonstrated that they genuinely care. And when someone gives you that kind of access, don’t take it lightly; steward it with the same gentleness that earned it in the first place.

— Your gentleness opens doors that aggression would permanently close.

— The people you lead need your strength AND your gentleness. One without the other produces either a dictator or a punk.

3. Gentleness Creates an Atmosphere of Trust and Safety.

When you operate with gentleness, you create an environment where people feel safe to be honest, to fail, and to grow. This is critically important in leadership, marriage, parenting, and ministry. People don’t open up to harsh, aggressive people. They open up to those who handle them with care. The Holy Spirit produces this gentleness in you so that you become a safe place for the people God has placed in your life.

How this applies to you:

— People will tell you what they really think when they know you’ll handle their honesty with gentleness.

— A gentle leader creates a culture where team members are not afraid to take risks or admit mistakes.

— In your marriage, gentleness builds emotional safety. Your spouse needs to know that you’ll handle their heart with care.

— Your children need your gentleness more than they need your lectures. Gentle correction shapes character; harsh correction produces rebellion. This is something I have had to work on. 

— In difficult conversations, gentleness ensures that the truth you deliver can actually be received. Because many times, what you’re saying gets ignored when how you’re saying it feels like an attack. People don’t receive truth from someone who makes them feel condemned; they receive it from someone who makes them feel cared for.

— When people feel safe with you, they give you the license to speak into the deepest areas of their lives.

4. Gentleness Is Love Handling Others with Care.

Here’s the root again. Gentleness is what love looks like when it handles others with care. Love doesn’t run people over. Love doesn’t humiliate. Love doesn’t use power to dominate. Love handles people the way God handles you: with tenderness, patience, and grace. God could crush you with His power, but instead He draws you with His love. The Holy Spirit produces that same heart in you.

How this applies to you:

— God handles you with gentleness, and He expects you to handle others the same way.

— One of my friends, Major General (retired) Barrye Price, used to say (when we were in uniform) that his soldiers were his treasure. I had never heard somebody use that term before relating to soldiers but the more I thought about it the more I liked it. People are not projects to be fixed; they are treasures to be handled with care.

— The same needs to be said for church. I’ve been around Pastors now for almost three decades, and unfortunately, I’ve personally seen leaders who manipulate and mishandle the people God entrusted to them. It’s one of the most heartbreaking things to witness. But the Holy Spirit produces a different kind of leadership; one that handles even the most difficult person with the same care God handles you. If you are a Pastor, your congregation is not your audience; they are your assignment, and assignments are to be handled with care.

— Your gentleness reflects how secure you are in your own identity. Insecure people are harsh; secure sons and daughters are gentle.

— The Holy Spirit empowers you to treat everyone, even difficult people, with divine tenderness.

— Your gentleness is a prophetic statement in a harsh world. It says, “There’s a better way to live.”

That’s enough for today.

Declaration of Faith:

Father, I thank You for producing gentleness of heart in me through the power of Your Holy Spirit!

I declare that gentleness is not weakness; it is strength under Your control, and I yield my strength to You!

I handle people the way You handle me: with tenderness, patience, and supernatural care!

I create an atmosphere of trust and safety wherever I go because Your gentleness flows through me!

I correct with wisdom, lead with compassion, and confront with love because that’s how You treat me!

I am gentle and yet powerful because Jesus modeled both, and the Holy Spirit produces both in me!

I am discovering new dimensions of gentleness in THE YEAR OF DISCOVERY!

I am living from the inside out, and GREATER IS COMING FOR ME!

I declare this by faith. In Jesus’ name. Amen!

This is Today’s Word. Apply it and prosper!